GLBTQ what are you? (stolen from Creative Freedom)

[MissTris]

So many people on this site are so open about what makes them... well, them. I'd like to know how you guys see yourselves. I want to know what you guys feel about homosexuality, or heterosexuality, what you go through on a daily basis, and what you're dying to say.

WARNING!

- ANY hate or flaming in this section will result in immediate action, this is one subject that is very fragile, and it takes a lot of bravery to speak about it, so I'd prefer anyone posting here feel safe, knowing that anything said here is treated without judgment, or hatred.


That being said, here is a list of GLBTQ terms, titles and labels.

100 Footer – a gay person who is obviously expressing the stereotypical examples of a gay person

Agender – refers to someone with no gender

Asexual -- Instead of attraction being a sexual thing, they're attracted to personalities, and they still want physical relationships (generally) but not sexual ones

Ambisexual – A person with a wide variety of sexual tastes

Androgyne -- refers to someone with aspects of both male and female genders, who identifies as somewhere in-between male and female

Androgynous -- refers to a presentation somewhere in-between masculine and feminine

Androsexual -- refers to someone who is attracted to men without referring to one's own gender

Berdache – Two-spirited; one who identifies with both a male and female soul

Bicurious -- Someone who thinks he/she may be bisexual but has not taken the plunge into acts with the same sex, therefore cannot be labeled bisexual

Bigender – The tendency to move between masculine and feminine gender-typed behavior depending on a context, expressing a male or female persona

Bisexual – A person that likes both men and women

Bear - an older, larger gay man who has a lot of body hair

Beard - A female friend of a gay man that is brought to an event, usually involving family, to keep up the pretense of heterosexuality

Breeder – A slang term for heterosexuals (Used by the LGBT Community) It is considered an “offensive” term and not politically correct to use

Butch -- refers to a masculine presentation of varying degree

Bull Dyke/Lesbian - a larger lesbian woman, typically with very short hair

Cismen -- refers to people born with male parts whose gender identity is male. In other words, non-transgendered men

Ciswomen -- refers to people born with female parts whose gender identity is female. In other words, non-transgendered women

Cispeople -- refers to people whose sex at birth and gender identity match. In other words, people who are not transgendered

Chapstick Lesbian - lesbians that don't mind wearing dresses/skirts, some make-up, etc. but are frequently found in jeans and t-shirts, or are sporty

Crossdresser – (See Drag King/Queen)

Drag King – Women who dress in men’s clothing

Drag Queen – Men who dress in women’s clothing

Eunuch – A castrated male; a legally recognised sex in some countries

Family - gay

FTH! – For the Homos! Another term from Gay God

FTM – Female to Male transition

Fagger – A follower of Matthew Lush who seeks to spread love and peace towards the LGBT community

Fag/Faggot – A term used on homosexual men, normally offensive if used by a heterosexual

Fag Hag - Deluded straight women who somehow feel that by following around gay men they can have them or female best friend of a gay man.

Feminine - Refers to a traditionally female presentation

Femme - Refers to a feminine presentation of varying degree

Fingering – A form of sex where you…use your fingers… Normally associated with the way lesbians have sex.

Fluid - Refers to someone whose gender can change over time

Fourth - Another gender completely outside the world of male and female. Like male or female, fourth cannot be defined in terms of anything other than itself

Friend of Dorothy – a term used to ask a person who’s sexual identity is unknown to another individual whether they are a gay man or not

Gay – Men who like men, or sometimes used to define women who like other women

Gay God – Matthew Lush; a well-known and highly respected pansexual of the LGBT community

Gay-Straight Alliance – A school-associated club that forms an alliance between all sexually identified students and their peers

Genderscrew -- refers to a presentation combining extremes of masculinity and femininity, such as a long beard combined with a skirt

Gender Identity -- refers to one's psychological identity as male, female, or something else. This is an intrinsic property of a person, and cannot really be quantified

Gender-queer -- refers to someone of a gender other than male or female

Gold star - never had sex with the opposite gender, only the same.

Gynosexual -- refers to someone who is attracted to women without referring to one's own gender

Heteroflexible – People who identify as heterosexual, but are sometimes attracted to the same sex

Heterosexual – People who are attracted to the opposite sex only

Heterosocial - hanging around mostly with the opposite sex, regardless of attraction

Homoflexible - refers to someone attracted mainly to their own gender, but who may occasionally be attracted to people of the opposite gender

Homophobia – The insecurities of being heterosexual

Homosexual – Attraction to the same sex; men attracted to men, women attracted to women

Homosocial - hanging around with your own sex most of the time, regardless of attraction

Intersexed – People born with aspects of both male and female genitalia

Kinsey Scale – Alfred Kinsey’s attempt to describe a person’s sexual history or episodes of a person’s sexual activity at a given time, using a scale

LGBT – The abbreviation for “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered”, can be expressed as GLBT depending on the region in which you are from.

Lesbian – Women who like other women

Lesbianism – The act of being lesbian

Lipstick Lesbian - a lesbian who presents herself in a very feminine manner (like by wearing lipstick, has very long hair, higher maintenance...)

MTF – Male to Female transition

Masculine -- refers to a traditionally male presentation

Metrosexual -- usually refers to a male with a sense of style and aesthetics who is nonetheless heterosexual

Non-Op -- For non-operative, refers to a trans-person who decides not to have surgery for whatever reason (health concerns, financial reasons, not an important part of their identity, etc.)

Omnisexual – (see Pansexual)

Otter - a young gay man who has body hair

Pansexual – People who love everyone; gay, hetero, bi, Trans, etc. it doesn’t matter. They are interested in the soul of the person, not its decoration

Pass - to act in a manner that you would be perceived as something that you are not. (Often a gay person will try to pass as a straight person, so that they do not receive any form of social stigma for their orientation)

Pass - can also mean when a trans-person passes as themselves without question

Pilger – For a gay person to hook up with a heterosexual, and most likely throw for a sexual orientation loop.

Pre-Everything -- refers to a trans-person before any steps have been taken to transition

Pre-Op -- refers to a trans-person before sex reassignment surgery (what is commonly called a "sex change")

Polar Bear - the same as a Bear, but with white body hair

Post-Op -- refers to a trans-person after sex reassignment surgery

Queen - a highly femme gay male

Queer – A general umbrella term for those who don’t feel defined by any other term

Questioning – All those heterosexuals who seem to be questioning their identity and annoy the jell-o out of the LGBT community

Rainbow – Calling someone “rainbow-ish” is simply referring to his/her non-heterosexuality. This is also the representation of the LGBT community

Scissor Sisters - A slang term referring to lesbians (orig.- the position that lesbians some times make when tribbing)

SGO – Stands for “Sexual Gender Orientation”

Sexual Orientation – One’s affectional or loving attraction to another person

The Sisterhood – A slang term referring to Lesbianism, often used by lesbians

Skirt - A male friend of a lesbian that is brought to an event, usually involving family, to keep up the pretense of heterosexuality

Spectrum – Any and all sexual orientation identities, and normally someone would refer to “the other end of the spectrum” as the opposite of his/her own sexual identity

Straight – The slang word for a heterosexual person

Straight-acting - a term usually used to describe a gay man that can pass well and/or has many butch qualities and mannerisms

Straighty - Derogatory term, used often in jest, to describe heterosexuals.

Swordfight – Like Tribbing, but between males (Male is a broad term)

“That’s so straight!” – A counter expression for the saying, “That’s so gay.” It has been created to mock those of the heterosexual SGO (Translation, straights are stupid)

Toteffly – Word from the Faggers; totally definitely

Transgender – a general term that is used by individuals that do not conform to the gender role expectations of their biological sex. It is also used by persons who may clearly identify their gender as the opposite of their biological sex. Transgender can also be used as a general term to include transsexual people

Transition Status -- refers to a trans-person's point in the process of transitioning from one physical sex to another

Transitioning -- A person who is mid-way through plans/actions to become a member of the opposite sex (i.e. make the outside look like the inside)

Transsexual – people with the biological characteristics of one sex who identify themselves as the opposite gender and have had some type of surgical alteration and/or hormone treatments that changes their bodies’ appearance in alignment with their identity

Transvestite – People who wear clothes normally worn by his/her opposite biological sex

Tribbing – When two lesbians rub their vaginas against each other (i.e. lesbian sex, other than fingering)

Trysexual – A person who is willing to and/or has tried anything sexual anyone can think of with any other person or animal or inanimate object, male or female


This list doesn't incorporate every term, but it's pretty comprehensive...


Some clarification-

Gender vs Sex- A few of the preceding terms refer to gender and not sex, that's because Gender is typically accepted as the mental aspect, while Sex refers to Biological Sex [ie- boy/girl]

Genderqueer- There is a large community of people who feel they don't belong to one specific gender, or that they belong to a separate gender entirely. This community is affectionately referred to as Genderqueer, or GQ.



I will not be re-posting everything that was said in the original thread, because this is a fresh chance, a chance to join the conversation.

So, the infamous question...


What are you?

[MissTris]

To pioneer this discussion I'll start, since I brought the topic around.
Most of you have come to know me, and at least enjoy my goofy personality as we chatter away in the C-box. You know a few things about me, but here is a better explanation of not just what, but who I am. I will use a few other things that are not on here, perhaps I will add them, dunno.

To start with the terms I am a Furry Lesbian directed Pansexual. Sometimes, I question if I am Berdache, at times it makes sense due to my dreams. Though dreams are such fickle things.

I was never clear on terms until a very recent time. I only ever knew what it was I thought I liked. I was "strait" and "Normal" but never really. I had made assumptions that it was normal to look at other girls the way I did, and that I deeply loved some of my friends though I never told them for fear of their scorn. I was afraid to loose them if I told them how I felt for them.
In high school I was a closet Furry, my friends were fur-bashers and impressed on me this dislike. At the time I was innocent, and simply felt like what I was, it had no name. I felt those phantom apparitions of my wings, tail, ears, paws, my whole self. What I look like to others is just a skin they see, perhaps it's easier to understand in this comparison: Wolf's Rain wolves, they can look human, but are wolves through and through.
So I was, though my species had no name. I was a Dracor, through and through, but I needed to reach the conclusion. At the time, in high school, I reveled the moments in which I could stand outside and feel who I was inside. Feel the wind blowing through my fur and brushing lovingly over scales. The wind's kiss beneath my wings, asking me to join it spiraling upwards.
But to open my eyes, in hope to delight in the land that flies beneath my crimson and black talons, only to see two awkward, clawless feet standing on the ground. It's such a let down, to see yourself standing there, weaker, hidden beneath something you don't feel you are. In a way its easier to understand my pre-op MTF friend.
After time I found my name and it was right on my tongue, Dracor, Didymus Psychi. Similar in a distant way to the berdache, but only distantly. It felt good to be named, to embrace myself! To feel that something has clicked, and feel more complete than before! This feeling was so astounding! I clung to my identity, Aime Dracor, though slowly my name surfaced. I was going by the middle. Lady Aime was really Lady "Miss" Tris Aime.
I wanted to play who I was for others, so they could know my true persona. I wrote up my bio sheet, making up many things so that it fit, but the essence of what my kind are is there, amid the fiction and offal.

This was shortly before a second shock wave, which was later brought around to who I am gender wise. I've never seen a doctor about my mental functions, I fear what they would find. Sanketsu Kishi Tala, my Shadow of Pride and Wrath. After his "birth" which was not my own doing truly it felt like he was always there lurking behind my eyes, watching and clinging to my brain moving for me when I could not myself. I've had many dreams about him, there on my brain between the flashing synapses. He hid away from my attraction to my present Ex-girlfriend. I'd dated males, and he was surfaced and there every step, in the face of her domination he took a back seat and flared up ready to fight when I could not continue.
I'd been attracted to my ex because of who I thought she was. When I first met her...her personality was so delightful, engaging, charming!
When I took my nightly walks I would wander by her house and look at the light cracked shuttered windows and wonder what they were doing. ...she was thinking of me.... We were pushed together by friends of ours on a drunken evening. She admitted to me that she liked me, and I told her the same, this person I thought I had come to know. It was a shame...that was part of who she was, same as San was part of me, together entwined him and I had fallen for this fem-fatal I thought I understood and knew. I felt safe at first, happy and warmed in the light of someone who I had come to love for personality.
This was college freshman year. I'd had other interests too, and lost my virginity as well to a stinking ass hole who shattered this illusion that it was suppose to be something wonderful. It was not grand, it was pathetic. I had no interest in the male, simply knew him...which is why it sucked, I had no spark to drive me. I wanted to try with the male I'd fallen for because of who I'd come to know in him.
Now there are some things I see physically, I love strong shoulders and back, I love to run my hands over the muscles and feel them flex and move. It's why I always rub/scratch/massage backs and shoulders. I also have a fondness to long hair, though it's not a deciding factor. Lastly, eyes. Like many I am attracted to eyes, though I do categorize some based on what I see in your eyes. The Eyes hardly ever lie, even when the tongue does.
Beach was what I called this fella I liked, and today I love him still and he knows it. Whether he believes me or not I do not know. There is something about his soul that made me cling to him, and hug him, want to talk to him and be with him. When I met my Ex, and fancied I'd found someone who returned my love the love for Beach never died, but was changed to the deep love for my friends.
Love categories for this particular Pan in spectrum form:
Hate. (self explanatory)
strong Dislike (boarder, typically people I avoid)
Dislike (I try with these people)
Mutual Agreement (I have yet formed a bond with them, strangers)
friendly love (generally new friends or ones I've not shared with)
Pack Love (those whom I've shared an experience with become part of MY family.)
Bonds (I use to be in tune enough to feel when someone was upset, no matter distance. This works with face to face friends, though has dulled over time.)
Love ('to fall in love' the status of my deeply connected friends whom I feel no anger. It's not a relationship desire, but a true caring for certain people that don't hit my 'mate' feelings.)
In Love (That space where those who meet my ((actually unknown)) specifications as a potential Mate are slotted. There can be a few, and are treated with affection like my friends I love.)
True Love. (There is only one here, who's personality has matched my want/needs/desires and loves me in return. After my true love is found the something in my brain clicks, not allowing me to find any desire in others.)

I'm a Pan, I fall in love for WHO you are,
not WHAT you are.
I learn who you are inside,
there is not much that you can hide.
I seek to know,
and then I find...
who you are...
on your insides.

[MissTris]

I really need to share this...it's a raw subject because it's so new. An open wound that has been sitting, and finally burst with infection, so I know it's there. But, perhaps it's not bleak as that, I should say it's more like a near healed wound, and it's been reopened by an accidental fall.

Today I had a revelation.
Revelations...can be many things, good, bad, bitter sweet. Mine is the last, and it's bitter sweet perfectly.

Today...
I realized who the first girl was I fell in love with.

An explanation:
In high school I was not sure what I was I guess. As I said before it was recently that I came to understand many things, but I am always still learning. But during that time I was friends with many, and came to what had been a stead fast friendship with a particular girl I called Sou-chan. If you're an anime nerd, or know some Japanese, Suffix Chan is an endearing term. We were anime nerds, with the rest of our friends. But I took a shine to my Sou-chan, one of her many names. When we'd go to conventions we were always pairings, when we slept over at her house (the friends and I) I slept in her bed. She'd admitted to me, in the later years of our schooling when I staying over there with her myself that she was Bi, but perhaps preferred men.
I never put two and two together, I had been so innocent. I loved her, and I love her still. Part of what I am can never stop loving those I have come to love, because they pass some kind of tests that I am not continuously aware of. It's how my mind works. She'd tell me things she told no one else, She'd call me, over friends she's known so much longer
Some would never call her beautiful, but I've always found her pretty, because I've always loved her. It took me five years to understand it...Nearly six years of my life, I've loved someone who may have loved me in return, but I was to stupid to understand.
When I moved up to Frostburg to stay with my Ex-girlfriend now, whom I believed the first girl I'd fallen for, my Sou-chan was upset. I'm sure she cried, for she was that kind of person. She said I had abandoned her, and I had to try to tell her no I had not. I did not think I had, I was still friends.
All those little signs I got from her, whether they were real or not at the time they are real in my mind now. It's aflame in shame, vexation and depression.

I love this girl, whom I called friend, Sou-chan, partner, even Master here and there. I would bow and do so not in mock for her. I've never kissed her but a friend's kiss on the cheek, once, maybe twice. I've hugged her often, how I loved it.
It's been three years since I've talked to her, because she was so unhappy with me. When she told me off a few weeks ago for drunk driving I was excited she still cared! And I was ashamed that she yelled at me. When she told me off, which had been seldom, it upset me more than anything.

How could I have been so blind...How I felt, how it seems she had....

She's in a relationship with a girl now, and when I heard about that yesterday I was jealous, and confused as well. It took me nearly another 24 hours to understand myself.
I'm upset now, confused and depressed, since I feel she had been waiting after I talked her through the break up with another friend of mine. I want to talk to her, but I am afraid. She's never been violent, but she can have a flaming temper that once it gets going takes a long time to settle.
She's never violent.

I miss my Sou-chan...I miss Ashley with all of me, that even now as I type, the screen is fuzzy with tears in my eyes, thinking about my ignorance, never seeing it before...

I don't expect everyone to understand, I don't even need a reply. I just needed to tell someone, because I wanted to write it out so I know what I'm feeling is not something weird or insane. I needed to see it myself, to read another day and say 'It's true, god it's true...and I wish part of it were not true. Be bold, be bold...but not to bold...lest the heart blood does run cold.'

[ancientakil]

Wow, that it heavy... The best advice I can give? If your seeking it anyway... Is to call her, talk to her or whatever... She should see this, what you wrote, how you feel... She should know. From what it seems you missed a lot of opportunities, why miss out on another? And I know what I am saying must hurt, or will hurt soon... But you need to face things, you can't keep dodging things because of what COULD happen..

"The only thing hard about cliff diving is the first jump, falling comes naturally, landing comes naturally, but it takes real courage to take the leap and to test the kind of person you really are."

Take that Leap Tris, because you never know when you will get that chance again...